First published over a decade ago as The Bully, The Bullied, and the Bystander, Barbara Coloroso’s trailblazing book quickly became the definitive guide to bullying prevention and intervention, providing real solutions for a problem that affects young people all over the world.  Now, in this thoroughly updated and expanded edition, Coloroso helps you recognize the characteristic triad of bullying:  the bully, who perpetrates the harm; the bullied, who is the target (and who may become a bullied bully); and the not-so-innocent bystanders—peers or siblings who either watch, participate in the bullying, or look away; and adults who see bullying as “teasing,” not tormenting, and as “boys will be boys” or as “girl drama” not the predatory aggression that it is.  In this book you will learn: 

  • What bullying is and what it isn’t
  •  The four ways and three means of bullying
  • How the offline and online worlds have merged to become the “real world” and how this reality has impacted the lives of young people for good and for ill 
  • Technology resources and solutions to deal effectively with online and offline bullying
  • Seven steps to hold accountable and reform someone who bullies
  • What to do and what not do when a youth is targeted
  • Four abilities that protect young people from succumbing to a bully
  •  How young people can stand up, speak out, and take responsibility for what happens among themselves online and offline

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Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth and her wide experience with conflict resolution and restorative justice, Barbara Coloroso offers practical and compassionate solutions and gives parents, caregivers, educators, and—most of all—young people the tools to break this cycle of violence and create more deeply caring communities.   
The Bully, The Bullied, And The Not-So-Innocent Bystander from Preschool to High School and Beyond: Breaking the cycle of violence and Creating More Deeply Caring Communities
As young people from preschool through high school wrap up their Summer break and head back to school in a highly charged—and at times, toxic—political climate, parents, educators, and students need to have a serious conversation about bullying and its intended and unintended consequences. Whether they target others, are targeted, or play the role of the not-so innocent bystanders, young people are deeply affected by offline and online meanness and cruelty.
An updated and expanded version of the international bestseller, The Bully, The Bullied, and The Not-So-Innocent Bystander by internationally recognized educator and author, Barbara Coloroso.

Winning at Teaching CD

In this remarkable and timely new book, best selling author Barbara Coloroso, whose work on Bullying has brought her international recognition, turns her attention to genocide: what it means, where it begins, where it must end. Through the examination of three clearly defined genocides - of the Armenians in the Ottoman Empire; the Jews, Rome, and Sinti in Europe; and the Tutsi in Rwanda - Coloroso deconstructs the causes of genocide and its consequences, both to the immediate victims and to the fabric of the world at large, and proposes the conditions that must exist in order to eradicate this evil from the world. Based on the author's thirty years of ongoing research and extensive travel her theories on bullying are here exposed as having a terrifying link to the unspeakable crime of genocide - Extraordinary Evil is an urgently needed work in an age when acts of genocide seem to occur more frequently and are in the public's consciousness more than ever before. What people are saying about Extraordinary Evil ?Barbara Coloroso has spent her entire life fighting for social justice and equality. Her work is an astonishing encyclopedia of causes: from the bullying of children to the genocide in Rwanda. Nothing escapes the unsparing force of her intellect, the gentle generosity of her soul, and her passion to shape a better world. - Stephen Lewis, former UN Special Envoy for HIV/AIDS in Africa.

Parenting Through Crisis Helping Kids in Times of Loss, Grief and Change Each day offers opportunities to give children the gift of inner discipline. But what are parents to do when daily routines get overshadowed by tragedy or traumatic events? What do we need to offer our children when they are faced with crisis or loss in their lives? In Parenting Through Crisis, Barbara Coloroso helps parents navigate family waters when they get turbulent, offering practical answers to difficult questions and situations. 

Barbara Coloroso's international bestseller delivers a powerful message that good parenting begins with treating kids with dignity and respect. It means giving them a sense of power in their own lives and offering them opportunities to make decisions, take responsibility for their actions and learn from their own successes and mistakes. Rejecting the "quick fix" solutions of punishment and reward, Barbara uses everyday family situations-from sibling rivalry to teenage rebellion-to demonstrate sound strategies for giving children the inner discipline and self confidence that will help them grow into responsible, resourceful, resilient and compassionate adults. 

kids are worth it! giving your child the gift of inner discipline

Winning at Parenting    DVD

We live in a world where children so often are given the message that the ends justify the means; where harmful, even violent behavior?in families, in communities, and around the world?goes unnoticed, unmitigated, and often unrepented; where children's ethical education can come from a T-shirt slogan or bumper sticker, an Internet site, or the evening news; where rigid moral absolutism or moral relativism has replaced true ethical thinking. In a world such as ours, Just Because It's Not Wrong Doesn't Make It Right is an essential tool.

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